Here is something that took me a long time to grasp, but the understanding has been extremely liberating, "emotional" eating IS normal, happy eating. You don't need to kill it with fire. It's no big deal. Maybe you'll be a little less hungry later. That's about it. Things don't get weird unless you forbid it or shame yourself for it. Then it becomes big and reactive. The idea that you need to eat perfectly or else you're "bad" and will gain weight is total diet nonsense. The fear is irrational. Your body is so much smarter than that. It will naturally adjust appetite and energy if we let it. That "uh-oh, I've blown it" sentiment is far more problematic than eating some crackers when you're stressed, or cookies when you're bored, and then just getting on with it. Another thing I've realized is that if I’ve been consistently well-fed for weeks and months, eating doesn't often occur to me as a thing to do when I'm bored, happy, or anxious. Restrict, or ignore hunger, and it zooms to the top of the list of coping mechanisms. I like this post from Caroline Dooner: https://thefuckitdiet.com/in-defense-of-emotional-eating/ She argues that eating is an inherently emotional activity, and that trying to make it one hundred percent logical and robotic is what causes food issues in the first place.
Wanting to garner some thoughts on something i have been struggling with for years. I have a compulsive 10pm fruit salad and yoghurt compulsion that i cannot seem to break up from. Been recovered weight wise for almost a year and do ok with lunch and some food during the day but still find myself obsessing over my fruit bowl and night time eating. Since recovery i wake up in the night and eat. Its a habit now i am fully aware of and know that i am physically hungry at this time but cant figure out how to stop. Even if eat all my calories during the day i still compulsively want my fruit and that stops me from filling up during the day to allow for this. Being weight restored i eat about three times what i used to but checked in after lunch yesterday and realised i still never feel "full". At the end of every meal i still have that depression feeling that 'damn my food is over'. This is a bit of ramble but i would love to hear any experiences with night time eating and rituals that you had to break. I do recognise it is now some weird form of habit and comfort for me that i desperately need to break. I do follow Stephanie Buttermore and love the whole 'all in' thing but sadly cannot admit to being this free yet - i wish i could be but just cannot and an even though i eat a lot now and have gained weight truthfully i am still too painfully aware of everything i eat. Any thoughts or opinions would be so appreciated!