When I'm deciding what or how much to eat "where Josie Spinardi would want me to stop eating" never enters into it. I don't care what Bethenny Frankel, Gillian Riley, my sister, or Oprah think either. :-)
How hungry am I? How does the food taste? Am I totally satisfied?
That's all I worry about. I don't eat so much that I make myself uncomfortable. I also don't eat so little that I make myself uncomfortable. Too little food and I'm going to be dissatisfied and thinking about food again in an hour or two. "Should I eat? Should I not eat? I just ate. I should wait? I don't know if I can wait. Oh, that looks good! Maybe just one..." That's the line of thinking I shut down by eating enough at each meal. I like shutting it down. I really enjoy NOT thinking about food. Thinking too much is what gets me in trouble. :-)
All of that "eating until 80 percent full, verifying if this bite was as good as the last one, stopping at a precise point on a fullness scale" nonsense is maddening. It is not helpful to be trying to stop yourself from eating the whole time you're eating. That creates really unnecessary stress. Then you're not eating, you're taking a quiz, one you can fail at somehow.
For me, eating too little and thinking too much = crazy assortment of stressful problems. Eating enough and thinking about it as little as possible = health, happiness, leanness.