I read a little Amazon ebook (only 97 pages) by Dr Steve Prentice called "Wrecked: Why Your Quest for Health and Weight Loss Has Failed and What You Can Do About It." It's a bit short, informal, and stating-the-obvious for its own book thread. Still, it had some genuinely funny and helpful insights. The basic premise is that our weight and health issues are caused by stress. Our solutions, rather than helping, only add more stress and make the situation worse. Slashing calories, cutting carbs, eliminating sugar and sodium, fixating on weight, overexercising, glugging water, they only stress you out more, make you feel terrible, and put the brakes on metabolism.
We knew this, but still. I like his take. Basically, the best way to lose weight is to not focus so much on food and weight. Instead, become a stress-reduction ninja. Take care of yourself, sleep, relax, eat food you like, form healthy human connections, find a purpose, avoid social media.
It has certainly been true for me that the harder I tried to control food and weight, the more everything sucked, failed, and crumbled around me. Chilling out has done wonders. Today, I was making an epic ketchup puddle for my meatloaf and remembered how I used to be afraid of the sugar in ketchup. I'd eat ice cream by the pint but ketchup bad. We completely stress ourselves out over meaningless diet variables while the bigger picture gets lost. Hey, how about eating, sleeping, and relaxing enough that I'm no longer driven to slam whole pints of ice cream as an escape? Wow, that might work even better than restricting condiments.