I see being a badass old person as NOT allowing myself to get too lean or frail. I picture myself as more of a rugged peasant old person. I want to be able to break rocks with a hammer or carry a sheep up a hill. LOL Post-menopausal women need enough body fat to have enough estrogen to support strong bones. I also want enough fat that if I can't eat for a couple of weeks I'm not going to die from, say, the flu. Keeping this in mind really cuts down on any sneaky thoughts about getting smaller. I want to be sturdy. :-)
Great points, [@skwigg]! This just made me think: I want to be study emotionally and sturdy for others, too. I want to be a sturdy wife and friend. And, let's face it, when your obsessed with your food and body, it's super difficult to be fully present with/for others.