Knowing something in theory and actually practicing it are very different. Diet brain wants to work it all out logically beforehand. You can read and think about change all you want, but it's the messy daily practice that actually creates change. Actions, not thought. The way to stay stuck is to believe you have to change your mind first - stop obsessing, become weight neutral, lose the fear, whatever, and then you'll be able to change your actions. It's the other way around. Change your actions and your brain changes.
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Thanks for such a timely post. This is where I’ve been struggling. My weight wasn’t stabilizing and I started tracking food hard core. And still was gaining. So decided it is miserable to be doing this much work and worrying to not even stabilize a bit. I can eat the food. I can trust my body.
I really like this, and I've seen it play out in real life for myself. For the first probably few years after I discovered Happy Eaters way back when, I was TELLING myself "I am totally free to eat any food, any time, as much of it as I want!" but never actually doing it, and that kept me stuck going back-and-forth. It wasn't until I took the plunge and physically did it that the it truly sunk in that I was going to eat the food, today and forever, and the crazy mental hunger and cravings and urges died down all on their own. I also noticed my disorder around exercise kind of solved itself when I was forced physically to let go of it, first when I could no longer compulsively exercise off my binges after having my first kid to look after all day, and then subsequently when I just couldn't exercise at all due to pain and fatigue from the next two pregnancies. After all that it was like my brain gave up and decided all on its own, "Hey, we don't need to do this anymore." I am a big fan of the "fake it till you make it" approach and the behavior-emotions-thoughts interconnected triangle thing for eating as well as most other things in life now.