Rigid diet thinking tells us we’re failures if we do one thing “wrong.” But in order to get really good at anything, you have to get in there, get messy, and do it wrong a lot, because that’s how you improve, not by being scared to try. If you think about intuitive eating, happy eating, Moderation365, so much of it is about finding middle ground and avoiding the extremes of restriction and overconsumption. How do you find the middle? By bumping up against the two sides, learning something, and making a correction next time. It helped me so much to see my eating as that ongoing process versus something I need to do right, and if I can’t do it right I need to try something else. That logic only kept me trapped in a never ending diet hell.
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"It helped me so much to see my eating as that ongoing process versus something I need to do right, and if I can’t do it right I need to try something else. That logic only kept me trapped in a never ending diet hell. "
This is what is keeping me in never ending diet hell. I tend to be like this about a lot of things: not seeing something as an ongoing process. But really, that's what most of life is. Great post.
@snail I can't remember now where I wrote this, or if I even put it here, but I was talking about professional athletes and talented musicians. Think about how often those people, the best of the best, drop the ball, fall down, miss, lose, hit the wrong note, forget the words, feel scared. They're so good because they aren't afraid to get messy, to try again, to keep practicing for years. It's not like you're good or you're not. The people who seem good at something practice. When they mess up, they try again.
Yes! Every mistake is a learning experience. Just amazes me though how many times I need to make the same mistake and keep learning the same lesson lol.