I was reading Jill Coleman's JuicyJourney email last night with the 30 days of mindset tools. A couple of things jumped out at me (again).
"Control is the opposite of trust." That was like a light bulb when I first read it. All the ways in which I was actively trying to control food and weight were fear-based. Not one of them was because it was fun. I was afraid of what would happen if I didn't do it. I'm talking about nutrition software, daily weigh-ins, measuring my food.
She talks about how vague and annoying she finds the phase, "Just follow your intuition." I'll admit that the word "intuitive" rubbed me totally wrong for many years, especially when paired with "eating." Jill said that she changed it to simply, "trust yourself." Which made me ponder what if instead of "intuitive eating" it was "trust eating." When you trust yourself, you don't need a bunch of outside input and guidelines, OR magical intuition unicorns. You trust your own experience and gain confidence with every choice you make.
"Never regret anything because at one time it was exactly what you wanted." OMG, that one is so powerful. She asks if there's ever a wrong choice if you learn something from it. "Own your choices. Do your best. Take responsibility. Learn the lessons. And then try again. But never,ever ever regret. Because at one point it was what you wanted. No issues." This is so important with overeating, restriction, old dieting behaviors. There's a moment in time when it seems like a great idea and is exactly what you want to do. Own that. If it turns out not to be so great later, own that too. If it's all you, you can learn and grow and make different choices going forward. If you see yourself at the mercy of mysterious forces beyond your control and you feel so terrible about it all, well, good luck... That's not the most empowering mindset.
"Resist the urge to justify yourself." If you find yourself justifying and defending yourself or your (food, weight, fitness) choices, it's not them that need convincing, it's you. Whoa! Jill says, "You never have to explain yourself to anyone. Do you. Own it. No apologies." I had a flashback to when I was a fitness blogger and I'd be walking through the grocery store making up stories about why I was buying _____ in case anyone saw me buying something not on my diet. I was so worried about what other people thought. It seems bizarre now, but I didn't want to be different, or wrong, or worse yet, a fraud! She's right, nobody else cared. I was the one in need of convincing.
“Those who don’t move don’t notice their chains.” –Rosa Luxemburg Wow! This quote is new to me. The conversation was about the importance of taking action. You know how we repeat our same familiar behaviors, get our same results (eat our same food, think our same thoughts). The experience might not be that great but it's safe and known. Jill says that taking action and actually DOING something when you're scared is what levels you up mentally and emotionally. Go ahead and try something new. Make a mess. Love your mess. The better you get at discomfort, the better you get. Wow, again!