Basically, if you maintain habits that you feel good about and maintain your general size, your scale weight doesn't even matter.
"It’s my daily behaviors that help me maintain. And I chose my behaviors based on what feels good for me, what I enjoy, what is sustainable, and what is the least mentally obsessive or depriving.
I don’t allow outcomes (i.e. my daily weight) to dictate how I eat and exercise (external motivation), and instead use my internal inspiration — what feels good for me — to drive my day."
I think that was the tipping point, when my habits became so enjoyable and effective that I wasn't going to change them no matter what I weighed. So, why check constantly?
Then there's the trust part of it. I trust that I can eat fried onion strings once in awhile, or eat an uncounted number of Nilla wafers out of the box while baking, and it doesn't spell failure and doom. It doesn't mean anything. I used to ascribe so much meaning to every food decision that it was paralyzing. Your food choices don't make you a good or bad person. They don't determine success or failure in life, happiness or ruin. Believing they do keeps things NUTS.
Try taking all the drama out of it. You eat something or you don't. You enjoy it or you don't. It serves you or it doesn't. In any case, it's no big deal. I realize that the feelings of guilt/dread/regret/anxiety are like the flip side of food romanticizing. When you want something you "can't" have, rarely eat, or plan to binge on, you tell yourself stories about how wonderful and amazing it will be. We recognize that building up eating occasions in that way is not the best idea. But the opposite is just as true, putting lots of energy and emotion into telling yourself that you really screwed up, will never make progress, and clearly can't be trusted around certain foods. The loaded emotions around eating are the real problem. They make it difficult to see things objectively and create balance.