Things didn't really click for me until I started thinking in terms of what MY happiest, best approach might look like. I wanted it all. I wanted visible abs and pizza for breakfast. I wanted strong muscles and short workouts. I wanted to try every flavor of Ben & Jerry's (except the icky ones). I wanted to take naps. I wanted to love my butt instead of always trying to shrink and flatten it. I wanted to not count, measure, or weigh my food. I wanted to be able to eat in any restaurant at any time and thoroughly enjoy myself instead of having a guilt-fueled panic attack. I wanted to be able to do cartwheels and handstands and backbends and all the fun tricks I could do when I was 8 years old. I wanted to walk dogs. I wanted to eat cereal for breakfast. I wanted to be a lean, healthy, fit person without spending lots of time in the kitchen or gym. I wanted to forget about food for most of the day, until it was time to eat. I wanted big, satisfying meals. I wanted to zone out in front of the television with my favorite foods and not feel bad or gain any weight.
Think about what you really want. It's your dream life. You can have it all. What does that look like? If you've never asked yourself such questions, and you're always just looking for some other person or book to tell you what to do and how to eat, you are in for a real treat when you start doing your own thing.