I had a thought yesterday as I was holding a big soup spoon in one hand and reaching for the peanut butter jar with the other. I don't walk around hungry anymore. I don't go to sleep hungry. I'm not generally physically hungry (as in stomach growling) before meals. I don't try to delay breakfast in the morning, or stop eating at a certain time at night. I eat what I want to total satisfaction every time, as opposed to trying to stop at "just enough," or some numerical fullness level, or some planned portion.
This is recent. This is like in the last year or so since finding The F*ck It Diet and Tabitha Farrar. Up until then I was still trying to make "smart choices," which is another way of saying "restrict food." You know, just a little bit! For health! It feels so much better NOT to be doing that. Health is eating enough. It's plenty of variety, lots of energy for fun things, and a robust metabolism. It's freedom from obsessive thoughts. Nothing brings on obsession and worry like chronically underfeeding yourself. Cue the crisis chatter. "When can I eat next? What can I eat? How much are they eating? Should I eat that? I can't wait to eat! No, I can't have that! How will I stop eating? Don't eat too much! Oh, no! What have I done?"
Eating without all that stressful commentary results in better food choices, I think, more in line with actual needs, not so reactive. But get too hungry or too controlling and the obsessive commentary gets really loud, like an obnoxious sports announcer, basically drowning out what your body is trying to tell you.