You are always welcome here, Letizia!
I’m quite a few years down the road from my worst food and body image struggles. What I can see in hindsight is that my eating disorder had nothing to do with food. It was a reflection of my inner state. Change your way of thinking and being, and everything around you changes. There is love and there is fear. Love is everything - connection, kindness, joy, wonder, empathy, humor. It’s our natural state. Fear is an illusion based on a story about the absence of love. It gives rise to anger, judgment, punishment, scarcity, insecurity, all that fun stuff.
So, with an eating disorder, we create all these monsters in our heads about not being worthy of love. On some subconscious level, we’ve decided that controlling what we eat and how we look will make everything ok. All addiction is an attempt to medicate fear on some level. We don’t feel ok with ourselves, but maybe if we engage in some behavior (disordered eating, gambling, shopping, over exercising, drugs) it will alleviate the fear and allow us to feel happy and safe, even if that experience is fleeting, which it always is when we go after it in some destructive way.
Begin to shift your beliefs and daily experiences in a way that allows you to feel loved, safe, appreciated, and grateful. Then, starving yourself in order to feel ok isn’t a thing that comes up anymore. It’s nuts!